I am not yours. I am there for you.
'I will always be there for you' is what lovers whisper to each other. But is 'always' not somewhat too long? Should we not, every now and then, give each other some breathing space?
Could 'always be there for you' be an overdose and smothering?
The presence of the other can be a surrogate in order not to feel one's own emptiness. One can hear it in 'without you I am empty' and 'only when you are here I feel good'. If, in order to be happy, we need the presence of the other it disturbs love.
The emptiness inside is a challenge to look for fulfilment of the purpose of one's own life.
However much we love each other, we remain two different stories. We certainly write an important part together, but each one of us writes his own history. Good relations respect this double reality. It is about distance and closeness. This is especially clear when lovers have not seen each other for a while. Only then they feel how precious the other one is. Distance creates closeness.
I am there to help you on the path you choose to take.
People can really be meant for each other. A good relationship therefore unites people with each other in a way that it does not bind them together. Because if togetherness feels like being tied down, it smothers the relationship. To love means to help the other to become what he wants and can become. It is to help him or her grow on her or his unique path. To say it in a different way : we are invited by our partner to find the path to ourselves. 'I will be there for you' is a great gift, a surplus value not to be missed. At the same time 'I am not yours', because real love means to help the other take his own path.
Therefore there is we , you and I.
'I will always be there for you' is what lovers whisper to each other. But is 'always' not somewhat too long? Should we not, every now and then, give each other some breathing space?
Could 'always be there for you' be an overdose and smothering?
The presence of the other can be a surrogate in order not to feel one's own emptiness. One can hear it in 'without you I am empty' and 'only when you are here I feel good'. If, in order to be happy, we need the presence of the other it disturbs love.
The emptiness inside is a challenge to look for fulfilment of the purpose of one's own life.
However much we love each other, we remain two different stories. We certainly write an important part together, but each one of us writes his own history. Good relations respect this double reality. It is about distance and closeness. This is especially clear when lovers have not seen each other for a while. Only then they feel how precious the other one is. Distance creates closeness.
I am there to help you on the path you choose to take.
People can really be meant for each other. A good relationship therefore unites people with each other in a way that it does not bind them together. Because if togetherness feels like being tied down, it smothers the relationship. To love means to help the other to become what he wants and can become. It is to help him or her grow on her or his unique path. To say it in a different way : we are invited by our partner to find the path to ourselves. 'I will be there for you' is a great gift, a surplus value not to be missed. At the same time 'I am not yours', because real love means to help the other take his own path.
Therefore there is we , you and I.